Alumni Perspective: Step 10

My new life in early recovery, required me to do things that I was not used to. One of those things was to be accountable for my own actions. After so many years of being self-centred and inconsiderate of others, I was shown the value of humility and kindness towards others.

I would speak to my sponsor each day and talk about how things went; it was important for me to be honest with him. A day arose where I had mistreated an employee in a coffee shop for something beyond his control. My sponsor suggested that I admit my wrong and apologize for what I had done. I didn’t want to do it and I didn’t agree with what my sponsor had told me to do. However, I trusted him enough to go through with it. After all, he had helped me to get sober and work the steps.

Hesitantly and nervous I went back to the coffee shop and spoke to the individual who I mistreated. Once it was said and done, I felt a relief. I no longer had tension over the situation. Two other customers were there and noticed what I had done and were very pleased to see it. One of them told me that my action has given them the courage to make something right with a person in their life. I learned from this experience the liberation and I gained spiritual freedom. 

Today, I keep this in practice, I ask God to remove my short comings and try not to land into situations where I need to admit my wrongs or take an inventory for something I have done wrong. Each day, I try to improve as a person and I seek guidance from God, and the principles of A.A. Step 10 has continued to give me spiritual freedom, which I didn’t have before and I am grateful for. 


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