The idea is similar to weeding your garden. You have valuable and desired character traits that you would like to see flourish, but they cannot as long as you have character defects preventing their growth. A garden cannot weed itself, so you're going to need the help of others to identify your character defects and you'll need God's help to remove them, taproot and all.

...we've also figured out how we can do those things—eating, sex, getting an adrenaline rush—recreationally, instead of for our survival. And sometimes the craving for that feeling can take on a life of its own, and so, by doing those things, we have created addiction.

If we want to be emotionally sober, we need in the here and now....we want to make sense of the world around us while we're living so we have many more choices, much more aliveness...

The whole point of the 12 step program is to get at the root causes of your drinking or addiction problem. Without doing this you won't achieve long term success. This is why you should stop taking others inventories and start taking a hard look at your character traits, feelings and beliefs.

I think that we all come complete. We come complete with one true note that we were destined to sing.

You can spend your whole life imagining ghosts, worrying about your pathway to the future, but all there will ever be is what’s happening here, and the decisions we make in this moment, which are based in either love or fear.