by Tim (Sullivan) “And then my obsession to drink was lifted.” I’ve been in program for a couple of years now and have heard this said on a number of occasions by different people. I don’t question anyone who says it, but I do know that it hasn’t happened to me, at least not yet. When…
In this episode we’re going to talk about something that’s hard for all of us to do: it can be so hard to ask for help. How do you do it, and why should you? We all need help — there’s no such thing as a self-made person; every single person that you look to…
Young people who are looking to start participating in a 12-step program should, whenever possible, begin with meetings that are specially designated for young people, to help them feel connected and engaged. After this initial engagement, however, young adults may find it more beneficial to branch out to more mixed-age meetings. Older people are more likely to have long-term sobriety, and generally have greater life experience and wisdom.
Through all of my drinking days, I never got enough. Not enough attention, not enough love, not enough understanding – not enough of anything. I always wanted more. More of what, I couldn’t have told you at the time. I didn’t even know that this was my story, because I was stuck in it – but my story it was until I found recovery.
At an AA meeting, you hear people tell their stories. These are often stories of great dereliction culminating in hope and gratitude. In group and individual sessions, patients talk about their hopes, dreams, and fears. Why is telling “The Story” so important?
“The poets say that this world is not made of atoms; it is made of stories … Sometimes in a world that is changing so rapidly the only security is in finding the elements of one’s own story and understanding the world through the story that brought each one of us here.”
Storyteller and mythologist Michael Meade on the meaning of stories in our lives.
On Saturday, September 16, 2000, I crawled through the doors of 501 Detox. I had no idea that my life was about to drastically change. I was sick, tired and afraid. A counsellor told me that if I did not go to treatment directly from detox, I would die. I knew he was right and so I entered Renascent’s 21-day residential program at the Graham Munro Centre. I have been volunteering at detox centres since I was three months sober and it’s one of the most rewarding things I have ever done.
If you have been clean and sober for a period of time and it is all getting to be boring, then before you become complacent or get “restless, irritable and discontented,” I suggest you find the time to work with newcomers who come to your group, visit hospitals and treatment centres and offer to carry the message of recovery to the suffering alcoholic/addict. Even if they have not reached out for help, yet!
Service keeps me mindful of the grave nature of alcoholism. I am reminded of the true malady, which is excessive self-centredness, and which often streams through many forms of self-seeking and selfishness. When I am committed to the process and working with another or giving back, I seem to have a reprieve from this terrible malady. Over these past few years, I have grown to surrender to this idea more and more.
Treatment is only the first step in achieving and maintaining sobriety, and bridging the gap between leaving treatment and entering the recovery community can be extremely difficult. Contacts serve as that bridge in many ways. Having a Contact who reaches out and actively supports a graduate can smooth the transition out of Renascent and make it far less frightening a prospect.