Perspective: Getting ready for freedom

I set off imagining how and when and where these great amends would happen, the beautiful outcome of most and the disastrous outcome of others. I shared my great imagination with my sponsor, who abruptly reminded me that I was on Step 8, not Step 9, and that my job at this stage was to become willing. So off to the dictionary I was sent to refocus on the meaning of willingness.

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Communion and Community

The people who crumble between the second and third years seem to fail because they reach their goals. The real tragedy is, they simply didn’t understand that their “me and my family” goals were just not big enough goals. They got what they wanted, and something inside was still empty and craving, because “me and mine” is not enough to make a whole, happy human being.

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Perspective: Dr. Jekyll, Mr. Hyde and Me

For me, as an alcoholic, anger is like a drug or a state of drunkenness: it impairs my perception and inhibitions and can make me unreliable, unpredictable, reckless and prone to lashing out. When I get angry it is because I am not getting my way. I am threatened with not having my expectations met; either I’m not getting what I want or I think I’m losing something that I think I have.

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