Ask a Family Therapist: If our family is not enabling, what are we doing?

Ask a Family Therapist with Sunil Boodhai, MSW (RSW), BEd., manager of Renascent’s Family Care Programs, therapist and counsellor. Q: I’ve been reading your column and I like many of the things you have been saying. However, I feel like your responses are a bit simplistic. It’s easy to talk about enabling as a major issue…

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Really Good Reasons You Need to be Involved in Your Family Member’s Addiction Treatment

Happy family having fun outdoors in spring green park

Spouses often complain that they have lost themselves in the process of their significant other’s addiction. They find that they have become people that they not only never intended to be, but that they do not like. In family treatment, you get to find yourself again. You will come to know and accept that your loved one’s addiction is not your fault and that you cannot make them relapse.

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Ask a Family Therapist: how am I enabling my partner?

Ask a Family Therapist with Sunil Boodhai, MSW (RSW), BEd., manager of Renascent’s Family Care Programs, therapist and counsellor. Q: My husband Albert is an alcoholic and has not sought treatment. My children tell me that I am enabling their father to continue drinking. I don’t give him alcohol and I tell him that I…

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Ask a Family Therapist: did I cause my child’s alcoholism?

Sunil (left) and Christine (right) facilitate a Children's Healthy Coping Skills program.

Ask a Family Therapist with Sunil Boodhai, MSW (RSW), BEd., manager of Renascent’s Family Care Programs, therapist and counsellor.   Q: My daughter is addicted to alcohol. She drinks every day and I don’t know what to do. She sometimes blames me for her drinking, saying that I stress her out with my nagging. I don’t…

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Ask a Family Therapist: why is everyone pretending nothing’s wrong?

Sunil Boodhai, MSW (RSW), BEd., manager of Renascent’s Family Care Programs, therapist and counsellor

Ask a Family Therapist with Sunil Boodhai, MSW (RSW), BEd., manager of Renascent’s Family Care Programs, therapist and counsellor.   Q: My brother and I both went to visit our parents during the December holidays. My brother has an obvious issue controlling his alcohol consumption but during the entire visit, while he was intoxicated and causing…

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Ask a Family Therapist: why do family members need treatment?

Sunil (left) and Christine (right) facilitate a Children's Healthy Coping Skills program.

Ask a Family Therapist with Sunil Boodhai, MSW (RSW), BEd., manager of Renascent’s Family Care Programs, therapist and counsellor.   Q: Why do family members need treatment if a loved one has an addiction?   A: This is a frequently asked question. In fact, when I contact family members to ask if they’ve considered our…

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Perspective: I Grew Up in Alateen and Al-Anon

by Shannon Luders-Manuel. Four people describe their experiences as children in the rooms of Alateen and Al-Anon and whether it helped them cope with their family member’s addiction. My mother has attended Al-Anon religiously for as along as I can remember. She left my dad when I was three after a particularly bad physical fight,…

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